Happy Wellness Wednesday Family!

I know, I know, it is indeed Thursday! Hence, today’s Wellness Wednesday topic is all about the skill of self-compassion because it fits right into where I am at in this season of my life and my gut tells me that it likely fits where you are too! How many of you have had a concrete goal that you just did not reach (for me, sending this blog post yesterday, I’m just saying)? A day, or a month, maybe even a year has gone by, when you just did not hit the planned target(s) like you wanted to? Sure, you may be telling yourself, like I have done, that there is no room for excuses! You may have judged yourself harshly, speaking into the inner sanctum of your mind and spirit all kinds of unlovely things, trying to keep yourself on the hook of responsibility and accountability…. I don’t know about you, but often, when I find myself there, instead of serving as a personal pep talk, my personal tirades leave me feeling even more depleted, demoralized, and less motivated to reassess, plan anew, and come back, ready to try again, typically after a good night’s rest! Can you all relate?!?

We live in a capitalistic society that puts the highest premium on productivity and measurable outcomes. You all know the drill – the same drill that tells you and me both to keep grinding! Because we are human beings and not machines, our performance and consistency is guaranteed to be imperfect at times! We are not how much we checked off our to-do lists today! Our value is not tied to our accomplishments contrary to what the culture may tell us. It is time, today, to invite a new narrative to the diatribe that you are enough, even if you didn’t check something off that to-do list as planned. I then invite you to choose to speak to yourself about not reaching your goal(s) like you would speak to your very dearest and best friend. I am guessing you would acknowledge for your Bestie that you know they are disappointed that they did not achieve X, Y, or Z, thus validating their emotions. And then you would transition to reminding your Bestie of all of the reasons that they are more than capable to reassess how to get done what they want to get done or need to get done, with as much love and compassion and words of affirmation and appreciation that you can muster. Your Bestie leaves the conversation, motivated and re-energized to get back up again! Instead of tearing our Bestie down, we have built them up! And that my friend is what I am going to invite you to do for yourself today. Pay heed to those inner whisperings and if they do not sound like the lover of your soul, check that voice and tell it to come correct! You are indeed a masterpiece, and in due season, trusting the process, you will continue to move forward to achieve your goals. Loving and nurturing yourself with kindness is the way to bounce back from a set-back, and to set yourself up to be the personal champion you are working towards being.

Let’s keep the faith ya’ll!

May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be safe, may you live with ease.

Sincerely,

Lois

Happy Wellness Wednesday Family!

As I sit here on the beach in Charleston, South Carolina, the land where my Mama's people are from, I am reflecting on the importance of roots.... Roots that are grounding, roots that are nourishing, roots that are sustaining. What about your roots? What makes you feel connected to something bigger than yourself? What gives you a deep sense that your life matters? What gives you a sense of sustenance and nurturing as you face the storms in your life?

I invite you today to take a moment now to reflect, considering your own roots. What can you take from those roots today that inspires you to be your best self?

May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be safe, may you live with peace.

Sincerely,

Lois